For most people in a relationship, a commitment to another person means no fooling around. And that not only applies to having sex with someone other than your partner. Cheating can be as small as getting another person’s phone number at a bar, an “innocent” kiss, flirty text messages, or even as little as a lousy Facebook message.
Cheating in my eyes, is one of the biggest betrayals in a relationship. If it meant nothing, why did you do it? If you claim to love somebody enough to get into a relationship with them, then why would you risk losing that? As a matter of fact if you “love” somebody, why in the world would you want to be intimate with anybody else? These are questions that will never be fully explained or answered because at the end of the day there is always an excuse as to why somebody cheated. People often make irrational decisions based on temporary feelings.
Now let’s get to the real point of this article.
Most people think men are the greatest “players” out there. The “bad boys,” the “con artists,” they’re ones who can spit their “game” and get any girl they want. They think they can sweet talk a girl, make her believe their lies, and have her in their bed within hours of meeting her. But beware boys; some women out there know how to play the game. And Not only do they know how to play it, but some are better, smarter, and faster than some of you will men ever be.
I’ve witnessed it first hand with one of my close friends. This girl is successful, has a great career, owns her own home, etc. Never in a million years would you think she would play a guy out, as she looks innocent as can be. She would have a new guy over each night of the week without the other men knowing and by Friday they are all calling her to see when they can see her next to take her out to dinner. She laughs all the way to the bank, literally. She doesn’t care for these men and she probably never will.
The problem is, men have this title mostly because they get caught more often than women do. Most men are sloppy, forgetful, and clueless, when it comes to hiding their mistakes.
So while you’re out there thinking you are “the man” trying to get other girls, while your girl is at home in bed, just make sure you’re not the one who is in fact being played by the player HERself.
Plain and simple. BOTH men and women cheat. This shouldn’t be a world of double standards anymore, and if women want equality, they need to also take responsibility for their actions.
If you are single and you want to play the field, by all means play it. But if you are in a committed relationship, and this goes for all genders- keep it in your pants when it comes to temptation.
At the end of the day, all WOMEN and all MEN must remember – cheaters may often win in games… but they will never win in love.