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Men Aren’t The Only Players In This ‘Game’

For most people in a relationship, a commitment to another person means no fooling around. And that not only applies to having sex with someone other than your partner. Cheating can be as small as getting another person’s phone number at a bar, an “innocent” kiss, flirty text messages, or even as little as a lousy Facebook message.

Cheating in my eyes, is one of the biggest betrayals in a relationship. If it meant nothing, why did you do it? If you claim to love somebody enough to get into a relationship with them, then why would you risk losing that? As a matter of fact if you “love” somebody, why in the world would you want to be intimate with anybody else? These are questions that will never be fully explained or answered because at the end of the day there is always an excuse as to why somebody cheated. People often make irrational decisions based on temporary feelings.

Now let’s get to the real point of this article.


Most people think men are the greatest “players” out there. The “bad boys,” the “con artists,” they’re ones who can spit their “game” and get any girl they want. They think they can sweet talk a girl, make her believe their lies, and have her in their bed within hours of meeting her. But beware boys; some women out there know how to play the game. And Not only do they know how to play it, but some are better, smarter, and faster than some of you will men ever be.

I’ve witnessed it first hand with one of my close friends. This girl is successful, has a great career, owns her own home, etc. Never in a million years would you think she would play a guy out, as she looks innocent as can be. She would have a new guy over each night of the week without the other men knowing and by Friday they are all calling her to see when they can see her next to take her out to dinner. She laughs all the way to the bank, literally. She doesn’t care for these men and she probably never will.

The problem is, men have this title mostly because they get caught more often than women do. Most men are sloppy, forgetful, and clueless, when it comes to hiding their mistakes.

So while you’re out there thinking you are “the man” trying to get other girls, while your girl is at home in bed, just make sure you’re not the one who is in fact being played by the player HERself.

Plain and simple. BOTH men and women cheat. This shouldn’t be a world of double standards anymore, and if women want equality, they need to also take responsibility for their actions.

If you are single and you want to play the field, by all means play it. But if you are in a committed relationship, and this goes for all genders- keep it in your pants when it comes to temptation.

At the end of the day, all WOMEN and all MEN must remember – cheaters may often win in games… but they will never win in love.


12 Men Describe Their “Dream Girl”

Dreamgirl: Noun; One’s ideal vision of a female companion.

Doug, 26
“My dream girl would be a girl who has a sense of humor, likes country music, and doesn’t mind being a model for my photography. She would have a great personality while not being one of those high class girls that needs a lot of maintenance.”

Sean, 32
“My dream girl does not live on this planet.”

Kevin, 36
“My dream girl consist of a pretty girl of course, who loves to laugh a lot. Has a sense of humor and doesn’t take life so serious. She would be athletic (take care of herself). Being spontaneous is a plus too.”


Michael, 36
“When I see my dream girl I envision sunshine. Opening my eyes in the morning and seeing a radiant smile. I see a supportive best friend and someone I can rely on and be present for as well. I see someone who is full of life and passion. Someone who doesn’t get discourage during trying times and finds the good in everything. I see a woman that I can lock eyes with across the room and we can share the same thought without sharing a word. A woman of great virtues to pass onto our children. And a woman that I can sit next to when we’re older and laugh at all the great moments we shared throughout our years.”

Joe, 30
“My idea of my dream has changed all through the years. When I was in high school it was the “popular” girl with the hottest body, just purely physical (immature I know). The more mature I’ve become, you realize that there is much more to a woman and I stress the word WOMAN. A man wants a woman in their life, not a girl. A woman is someone who has morals, cares for other people, and someone you can count on no matter what the circumstance. My idea of the perfect woman is someone with a great sense of humor, has great family values, strong willed/minded, has the same lifestyle and career goals as I do. Be able to talk and communicate on a very open level without being criticized. Most importantly, a positive attitude and makes the best of every situation with poise and determination.”

Gil, 40
“I always thought I’d meet and marry someone who no matter what would always have my back as I hers. A couple is a union that has ups and downs. It’s the downs, which everyone goes through, that really defines a couple. I look at my mom and dad and no matter what the argument or hick up is, at the end of the day their love for each other and their common goals to foster a loving environment for their kids prevailed. I may be gullible to think that these relationships are unicorns; that they don’t exist. But I won’t stop believing.”

John, 25
“My dream girl is a girl that accepts me for who I am, we don’t necessarily have to have everything in common, I actually prefer for us to have our own hobbies but be supportive of one another. Most importantly a strong personality that our relationship would be complimenting each other’s lifestyles more than dependent.”

Kyle, 24
“A smart with a college education, very nice and loving. Puts my needs before hers and will do anything to make me happy. Has a good moral background and has family values. Wants to have kids and a family. A girl who will always appreciate what I do for her no matter how little or big. About 5’2 115 pounds. Goes to the gym and stays fit. Has a toned body. Nice breasts like a c cup. Perfect white teeth and amazing smile. Loves to dress up and wear heels.”

Matt, 25
“My “dream girl” is not a girl at all. She is a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to approach a man that she finds attractive. Her confidence is clearly evident without being overly cocky. This woman needs to have ambition and motivation towards a goal she wants to achieve in her life. She is independent and can take care of herself but not shy about asking for help should she need it. She appreciates the little things that I do for her and is sensitive to that fact that a man needs her to lean on from time to time as well. Physical attraction is obviously important but certainly isn’t the deciding factor. Last but absolutely not least, LOYALTY and TRUST is a must. If I need to be concerned about what she’s doing while she says she’s out with her friends then that is a major turnoff. Likewise, I need to be able to have my time with my friends or even by myself without being interrogated about every detail in a hostile manner. Respect, loyalty, trust and the ability to just simply enjoy each other’s company even if we are doing nothing but sitting at home alone is all I could ask for.”

John, 39
“My dream girl is a woman that is devoted, loyal, understanding, caring, and not boring… I’m an easy guy to get along with. I want a women who is spontaneous and pretty much cool with doing things that I like, well, things we both like. I want a women that doesn’t mind staying in and cuddling watching a movie. Must like football!”

CJ, 22
“My dream girl. I’m a brunette guy so let’s just get that out of the way. She has to be athletic as I’ve always been into athletics and never plan on stopping. She would be intelligent and be successful by herself because she’s worked hard to be. She would have an incredible sense of humor because let’s be honest, who wants to have to be serious all the time? I like a girl who doesn’t mind drinking a beer once in a while and can let loose with her friends or my friends as well without having to be the center of attention all the time. She’s got to be happy to have my attention. Trust is a huge thing, and if something is wrong she would be able to communicate that. None of that silent treatment crap. I like someone who I can be adventurous with, someone who would want to experience the world with me. Lastly and fairly important, she has to look great without makeup. That may seem shallow, but no one wants to wake up next to a monster every morning!”

Joseph, 24
“My dream girl would have to be smart and have a job that she loves. Loves animals more of a country girl but when it was time to go out she looked amazing someone that both of us could just be our self’s around. A girl that likes hunting fishing boating and likes going away and relaxing. Wants a family and likes being with family on Sundays”

“Being a Dream Girl is never going to be about what you look like or how much you weigh. After all, our physical appearances are just reflections of our inner worlds. What makes you a Dream Girl is your emotional sensitivity, your self-awareness, and your ability to communicate who you are effectively and compassionately in the world.” ―Jennifer Elisabeth

What It’s Like To Date A Girl Who Lost Her Mother

She’ll be a different kind of girl. She has experienced loss and knows what it feels like to be left, even if it was unintentionally. Every day her heart will be hurting, even if she doesn’t show it. Comfort her.

She will act tough, she will pretend she doesn’t have emotions. She does. They’re tucked away deep down inside her broken heart. Let her know she is meant to be loved and you want to love her.

Each and every time you mention your mother she will cringed, not at the thought of her, but at the thought of her own mother not being around anymore. She will feel a sense of embarrassment when someone asks her about her parents. It is one of the hardest things in the world to have to explain to somebody why and how you are a motherless daughter.

Holidays will always be hard for her, after all the most important person in her world is no longer there. Do something to honor and celebrate her mother.

She will wish with all her might that you got to meet her mother before she died, but she knows that is not a possibility. She constantly wonders if her mother would like you, would she approve of you? Get to know her mother through her. Ask questions. Don’t be afraid of bringing up what you think may harm her heart even more. It won’t. She loves to talk about her mother. She wants you to know every little detail, but she probably would never tell you that on her own. Talk to her, ask her what her mother was like, what her mother loved to do, what her favorite food was, what song she liked, what she learned from her, etc. These questions will open her up to you, even if it’s only a tiny bit. Remind her every day that she is beautiful and she was raised by a queen.

She will cry a lot, but you won’t know it when she does. Let her know it’s okay and let her know that you want to be the shoulder she cries on. Let her know you want to be the one to make her smile through all the tears.

She’ll want to take a lot of pictures, memories are gold to her. She knows what it’s like to have amazing memories ripped from under her feet, and she is more than thankful for the pictures she has taken to keep those memories alive.

She will hide, she will not accept your love right away and it will take her a while to realize she is more than deserving of it.  She will hate the fact that she feels this way, remember she can’t help it.

She will be very independent, there will be a lot of things she won’t need you for, be there for her anyway, but always give her space. She values her solitude but don’t ever be offended by it. Take the time to understand why she likes to be alone.

She is not broken, although it may seem she is, so please don’t try to fix her. She is just finding her way in this world without her mother’s guidance.  She will guard her heart more than she ever has before, and you’ll have to try very hard to climb her walls, but when you eventually get to the other side, it will all be worth it, because she will love you with everything she has left in her.

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